Intellectual Nourishment

The nice part about living in a small town is that when you don't know what you are doing, someone else does.

Wednesday, May 7, 2008


By Sara Laub

This little town has a high percentage of family ties. Being a family group can be one of the most difficult things to deal with in life. You can pick your friends, but not your siblings or parents or even extended family. I have often wondered why we are subject to the family and then expected to get along. Even the best of families have their skirmishes and perhaps they have learned better how to deal with them.

The best part of family is the unconditional love factor because love is the glue that holds people together. Without love, the family would not survive. It is the thing that helps us to forgive each other for bad choices or differences of opinion. Unconditional love helps us overlook bad qualities and habits and see family members as special despite their follies.

In families we are forced to be taught things like tolerance, patience, responsibility, forgiveness, etc, and those come by our choice if we are willing to learn them productively. Families make mistakes so how do we cope with events, choices, or words that are harmful in our families? Lowering expectations, recovering communication, and educating ourselves, among other things, can help us make amends and bring us to the reality of the imperfection we all face. The unconditional love allows us to see what we need to see and do what we need to do to contribute to our family. It is like a continual group therapy in search for happiness and peace in unity.

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